Friendship
Today Morning I started my usual day, having a nice warm sip of coffee at my favorite coffee spot. It was a gorgeous day with the sun blessing its beauty, winds teasing the hair, and people decorating the empty spaces.
While I was one peaceful person with sunlight, coffee, and a very pleasant environment, I noticed something peculiar. I noticed there are some people together, in a group. I noticed some people are not part of any group, they are solo. I discovered with the telescope of my heart that the people in the group were calling themselves — “Friends”. And that’s where I lost the taste of my coffee. I chose to convert the telescope of the heart into the microscope of the mind.
The Microscopy of Mind, forced me to rupture an acute question within me asking — “What is Friendship?”
So yeah, that’s the question I found for myself — “What is Friendship?” I decided to elaborate in depth on “what the heck is friendship”. While this could really be a very babyish question to you, I would still urge your patience to overtake your being for a while when you are about read whatever I am going spell out of myself.
There are great examples of Friendship shown historically. These examples are probably everywhere. The friendship of Krishna and Sudama, the friendship of Watson and Sherlock, the friendship of Harry and Hermione, google them and the list never ends…
So I had this question, after knowing the best examples around me, for truly myself — “What is Friendship?”
Today, what do we really do for the sake of Friendship? I mean in other words, for anything to be, isn’t it needed that some action or activity with your energy of the mind is needed? So for Friendship to be, I believe we do need some actions to be taken, but more than action, there is a need for emotion in the first place.
Are we aligned to be skeptical? Or we are aligned to be practical?
Is “Friendship” the Mercy of a king bestowed on his friend who somehow wasn’t able to achieve financial things in Life? So, is the act of Mercy equal to “Friendship”?
Suppose you see a hungry child on street begging for food, is your Mercy to give him food, enough definition of “Friendship”?
Does this make “You”, a “Friend” of his? Well, as far as I know, you don’t even want to look at someone who isn’t equal to you, isn’t it?
So, what is “Friendship”?
If two people spend time together, that is “Friendship”?
Two people giving each other pleasure and happiness, is that “Friendship”?
People setting goals and achieving them, together, does it make them “Friends”?
Isn’t the only relation of Life that is not given to us, but the one painted by us, a very foggy relation to relate, because sometimes, even strangers feel good with each other, and I know this very deeply that strangers are NOT FRIENDS.
What is the most common thing everyone does today?
Hanging up on social media — Whatsapp, Facebook, Linkedin, Twitter…
Some people feel nice being alive on software. People lovvveeeee posting something and sharing it with the world. People also love sharing a few pages of Life with countably few accountably none, does a sharing of this form makes the circle of “Friendship”
They love being surrounded, and not being grounded. To me, I think inside, what makes two people “Friends”.
Are those who really stand by your side, when you are writing a decisive chapter of your Life, your true “Friends”? Are they the ones whom you call “Friends” to encourage you in your life, for doing better? So, I feel there are so many books out there, books that teach you so many things, give you knowledge, give you lessons, morals, books making you a better version of yourself, never letting you empty from inside. Well, they do have a saying — “Books are best friends of a Man” While whatever that can be done, by a non-living, realistically life-less thing, and when it could be there for you every day, every hour, every minute, every second, what is it the difference and purpose when they say is the same role being played by a Living-Version to be entitled as — “Friendship”.
Why do people apply the rule of Friendship so casually to a Human? What is Friendship when the context can ideally be replicated by a Book, who would never have any intention and would never even Lie with you?
Isn’t Friendship what we know today, so much more difficult for a simple person?
Because people chat, people go out to fun gatherings, people go out for lunch together, and many times call each other “Friends” and I am afraid of this. I know Humans are very social animals. Humans love to be as a community just like Elephants. But does being there as a community, make one and the other call and declare the two being into “Friendship” Or conversely only Friends form a community and inside the community, there are only “Friends”
Having coffee at the office, during coffee breaks at the office, cracking laughter is very nice indeed, while in the crowd of cheers, I discovered this question for truly myself — “Is this Friendship?” The only relation we chose. And the only relation which would not be the gift of blood.
It is pretty to be together, to talk, to share, to feel safe. Yet the pleasure of prettiness snows the road which people don’t realize and annotate with the term — “Friendship”
“Friendship” has been questionable to me, as I am having a hard time to see on what exactly it is, because those who said — “We are Friends”, have hardly done anything. Isn’t it that you want something for your dear one, and conversely the other party for you, if neither of you can fulfill that very “want” a challenging irony to the term “Friendship” To be stated clearly — Mr. A and Mr. B say they are Friends, but there is nothing between them other than internal news post of what they did. Is it that two emptying their heads on each other’s table called — “Friends”? In fact, Mr. A. never even accepts most of the things that particularly make the true Mr. B. . Quiet an interesting paradigm to see when they are still advertising that Mr. A and Mr. B are Friends.
For “what Friendship is”, has thus been this meticulous question to me.
Because even in the professional world, there are people who walk and walk the talk together as one sound, the moment they punch out of their office doors, they don’t know each other. Say for example two change their teams or work areas, and the next day they don’t even know each other. Are the people sharing the same journey accidentally sharing the same umbrella called “Friendship” to defend themselves from the same rains? Is such connection an equivalent of “Friendship” when you don’t even care for each other once you know the weather has changed?
For “what Friendship is”, has thus been a very meticulous question to me. When there are people who do not want to hold the heart and hand the same way.
Yet I think this question is very incompletely addressed and described. Wouldn’t there be so much more to add here, just because this term — “Friendship” has somewhere lost from what it could have been?
What is it that you think? What do you think is “Friendship”? Because for me at least I think, I really don’t know what is “Friendship”, if only you could help me know better.
“Charming it is to see the rain together as millions of droplets… desperate it is to learn that no drop of rain holds the other when it travels the hell to earth…”
